I Am Not the Mom Who…

  1. I am not the mom who dresses her kids in perfectly ironed outfits with monogrammed initials and matching bow. That just seems mean, especially if your kid is over 5.
  2. I am not the mom who hangs out at school to gossip about other moms or other kids or the school and how it’s run. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
  3. I am not the mom who wants to be in control of stuff at my kids’ schools. I just don’t have the time and energy. Plus, I’ve been there and done that when I was a teacher.
  4. I am not the mom who will just run out and buy stuff for my kids because they want or think they need it.
  5. I am not the mom who cries or is saddened by each new stage of growing up. I like celebrating new stages as my kids mature. It’s fun to see them develop and grow.
  6. I am not the mom who lets her kids stay up until 10pm or have sleepovers whenever they want. I like structure and bedtimes.
  7. I am not the mom who is naive to the power of technology. We already have rules in place, and my  kids don’t have phones yet.
  8. I am not the mom who is best friends with her kids. My job is to parent; not be a friend.
  9. I am not the mom who will support her kids no matter what. I love my kids, but I won’t accept certain behaviors. To blindly support your kids no matter what actually goes against biblical teaching and is really poor parenting.
  10. I am not the mom who expects perfection. I want my kids to make mistakes, so I can help them recover, repent, or reconcile the problem.
  11. I am not the mom who places her kids on a pedestal. I love my kids, but they are not my whole world. I am aware that they were given to my care for a short time, and they will (hopefully) leave my care and my household as independent and thriving adults. If my kids become my whole world, then they will disappoint me at best or at least leave me feeling lonely.
  12. I am not the mom who willingly gives up family time. We get so little family time as it is that I want to protect that time as much as possible, so we only allow one sport at a time. We also have rules about nights out and family nights.
  13. I am not the mom who spends extravagantly on her kids. I’ve never taken my kids to expensive theater productions or fancy restaurants or even extravagant hotels. They are kids; they can have fun while enjoying the smaller and less expensive things like movie theaters, school productions, normal restaurants, and decent hotels. Spoiling them young only creates an expectancy when they get older.
  14. I am not the mom who plays nicely. If you want to win at cards, beat me fair and square. If you want to win at basketball, start practicing on your shot. Allowing my kids to win at every game teaches them nothing about strategy, thinking, losing, or fair playing.
  15. I am not the mom who likes procrastination. Yea, I’m a bit hypocritical here, but I don’t like knowing that a school project is due tomorrow. Tell me it’s due  next week so that we can plan it out.
  16. I am not the mom who does fundraisers. Ugh. I know they have their place, but I would rather rub my eyes with sandpaper.
  17. I am not the mom who Pinterests. I am not creative; I do not have time; I don’t need another thing to make me feel badly about myself.
  18. I am not the mom who wants advice on parenting. I know you may be perfect; I know I am not, but your advice really doesn’t hold much weight because you don’t know my kids like I do. If I need help, I will seek advice from someone I trust and respect.
  19. I am not the mom who judges other moms. Seriously. Breast feed? cool. Bottle feed? cool. Working mom? great. At home mom? great. Vaccinater? Yay! Non-vaccinater? okay (though I don’t get it.) Homeschool mom? wishing you the best. Private school mom? wishing you the best. Public school mom? Wishing you the best.
  20. I am not the mom who lies to her kids. When they ask about Santa? truth. When they ask about sex? truth. When they ask about Jesus? truth. When they ask about alcohol and drugs? truth. If they can’t get truth from me, then I’m not doing my job as a parent.

Hoping you can be the best mom for your kids–even if that means being opposite of me!

 

Ashley

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